Flawed

My life isn't perfect. As I'm sure you know, I am very flawed. A lot of times I read other blogs and wonder what their lives are really like. People [including myself] don't want to showcase the things that aren't "perfect." We take "selfies" at our most flattering angles, we edit all of our pictures to make us look the most attractive, and we only share the happiest and most exciting moments of our lives. If I'm being completely honest, sometimes I get so sick of it. I wish that people would share more personal pieces of their lives, even if they aren't perfect, because that is what I can relate to.

So I wanted to get real with you today, and tell you a few of my not so great qualities. Because I never want any of you to think that my life is perfect or that you can't relate to me.

I take way too many selfies. And it takes about 30 bad ones to get 1 good one.

I currently don't have a job. Neither does H. We moved up to Idaho with a little bit of money and a lot of faith. It has been a very stressful month for us, trying to find jobs, and not having any money come in. [I had a few interviews this week though, so cross your fingers!]

I am not always put together. I don't even wear clothes or makeup most of the time, unless we are running errands or taking pictures.

I watch an unbelievable [and kind of disgusting] amount of Netflix/Hulu. I have seen almost every TV show you can think of. Seriously-- ask me. I've seen it.

I don't have an unlimited budget. The only way I can buy new clothes so often is because I sell my old clothes. I cycle through clothes like crazy so I can keep up this blog.

I am not a bed maker. 97% of the time our bed is not made.

I am bossy. I'm also that person who backseat drives constantly. I can't help it. [Sorry, H!]

I have days when I don't feel cute, don't feel skinny, can't figure out what to wear, etc. I have a lot of them, actually. It's easy to get discouraged in the blogging world, because you are constantly comparing yourself to others.

I don't always have the best mouth, and occasionally let a swear word slip from time to time. I'm not proud of it.

I have clothes covering the floor of my closet [and room] all the time. I'm bad at hanging up my clothes after wearing them.

I can be a total drama queen.

I feel like I am surrounded by pregnant friends/family members and it really makes me want a baby. I probably beg H on a weekly basis to give me one of his babies, but it won't be happening for a long while.

I cry. On a daily basis. I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I'm mad, I cry when I'm sad, and I cry when I see other people crying. I'm a crybaby.

I don't do the dishes. That is H's job in our marriage.

I have a permanent line on my forehead from my many facial expressions, and I am very self conscious about it.

I sometimes wonder if I'm too young to be married and in love. Not that I would ever take any of it back, but being 21 years old and having already found my soul mate just seems crazy sometimes!

I love gossip. I don't like to talk bad about others, but I do like to speculate on their lives with my friends or with my husband. I am also not proud of that.

I fight with H sometimes. [Notice I didn't say that we fight. He is definitely the peacemaker in our relationship.] It doesn't happen often, but it does happen, trust me.

I am, however, completely obsessed with my husband. My heart feels like it's going to explode on a daily basis because of how much I love him. I don't know how he puts up with me and all of my craziness, but I sure am grateful that he does. I don't know how I would be able to get through my imperfect life without him.

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Thank you all so much for reading today's post. I know it was different from my normal posts, but I think I'm ready to try something new with my blog. I will still be posting outfit pictures, but I have always had a passion for writing, and I want to write something meaningful every day-- not just something about my current outfit.

xoxo,

Day 17: Rainy Day + Flaws

So I came across THIS post the other day, and absolutely loved it. She talks about not trying to fit the mold; owning your flaws, and not trying to hide them. And I decided that I needed to share some of my flaws with you today. One of my favorite things is fashion blogs. One of my least favorite things is when the fashion bloggers are completely unrelatable and make it seem like their lives are perfect.Guess what? My life isn't perfect and neither am I. [Surprise, surprise.]
Some of the flaws that I might typically try to hide from you:-I leave my clothes everywhere. My apartment is almost never clean because it's littered with clothes and shoes. I hate hanging clothes up, and it really is a huge chore for me.-Speaking of clothes, I get really stressed out when it comes to choosing outfits. I swear, at least once a week, I am on the verge of tears because I don't know what to wear.-I can be super lazy.-I watch way too much TV. I think it has to do with the fact that I'm so lazy. Or maybe I'm lazy because I'd rather just sit and watch TV.-I get really frustrated with H when he can't read my mind. My best girl friends can always read my mind, so why can't he? [It's like he's a man or something... ;]-I do not like animals. At all. [I truly despise cats.] And I get really mad when I see people treat their pets like humans. [I'm not trying to offend anyone!]-I'm impatient. When I want something done, I want it done now. -I'm on my phone way too much. Social media has become a huge part of my life, and it's sad how many opportunities I'm sure I miss out on, because my eyes are glued to my phone.-I'm judgmental, which is really sad, because I hate when girls are judgmental. -I'm an over-tipper. [Some may not think this is a flaw, but I'm pretty sure H does. ;] H always gives me the check so I can add the tip, because it drives me crazy when people don't tip well.-When I'm at the grocery store and I decide I don't want something after all, I put it back on the closest shelf I see. I justify it by telling H that if I didn't put things in the wrong place, the employees wouldn't have anything to do. [Anyone that works at a grocery store is probably hating me right now! Sorry! :]-I don't/can't eat healthy. I've tried, and yet somehow I always end up eating oatmeal cream pies/zebra cakes/oreos in the end. I love salad, and I love fruits and vegetables, but I also have a major sweet tooth that can't be tamed. -Oh, and I also don't work out very often.-I take waaaaaaay too many pictures on my phone. [Sometimes while driving?!] But mostly they are of this cute girl, which makes me think maybe it's not a flaw at all. I mean, just look at her!! I may or may not be obsessed.

 [And yes, she does the whole hand on hip thing. We call it her "fashion pose" and I love it.]

ANYWAY. This outfit wasn't technically part of the 30 day challenge, but I don't really care. It's only day 17 and already I am ready to wear some other clothes. I'm still going to call it day 17 though. I just may end up with a couple of extra items at the end. Oops! :] 
H and I woke up yesterday morning and were happily surprised at the sound of rain. Rain is my absolute favorite and I jumped out of bed to get dressed with my Hunter rain boots. I wish it rained every day! 

Headwrap: c/o Bloom By Haley Anne // H&V Necklace: c/o Bip and Bop // Gold Link Bracelet: c/o Bows to Toes
Isn't this headwrap just to die for? Bloom by Haley Anne has the cutest headwraps at such an affordable price! You can score 2 of these for only $20! Make sure to check out her site! I hope you have a great day, and I'd love to see you share some of your flaws on your blogs. Make sure to leave a link if you do! :]
Don't forget to enter the Group Giveaway and the $200 White Plum Giveaway!
*Linking up with: Rolled Up Pretty // Fashion and Beauty Finds // Random Wednesday // Real Girl Style // The Pleated Poppy xoxo,

Day 16: Girly + Fake Pregnant

Guys, I'm just going to be real with you right now.

H and I have been married for almost 9 months, and I have been convinced that I was pregnant probably 9 times. Seriously, every month, I tell H, "I feel like I'm pregnant." And yet every time, he knows better. Because obviously I'm not pregnant.

If my parents are reading this right now, they'll probably get mad at me for sharing too much information. [STOP READING MOM AND DAD.] But that's okay, because this is necessary for you to understand where I'm coming from. I have had a lot of friends who gained excessive amounts of weight or had crazy mood swings on the pill, and their horror stories scared me into taking a different route. I got an IUD, and for the first few months I had a lot of problems. Not weight gain or mood swings, but mostly a lot of pain, and so I hated it. I haven't had any pain from it in awhile, though, and now I'm kind of liking it.

So every month I just know that I'm pregnant, and then every month I'm just not. [Not that we're trying. Obviously. I have an IUD.]

Reasons I'm convinced I'm pregnant:
-Every month I'm convinced that I'm gaining weight.
-Every month I'm convinced that the ladies are growing. And they get really tender. [This month I SWEAR THEY ARE.]
-Sometimes I'm convinced I have this super human sense of smell.
-I'm so emotional. All the time. When I'm happy I cry; when I'm sad I cry. [This has been going on as long as I can remember though. I'm super sensitive. Haha]
-I haven't had a visit from Mother Nature in 3 months. [That's very common with Mirena, though.]
-I get an upset stomach/nauseous after most meals. [That's been going on for a long time though, but I still like to blame it on my fake pregnancies.]

Reasons I know I'm not pregnant:
-I have an IUD. [And while it is possible to get pregnant with an IUD in, it's very dangerous and I'm sure I would be in a whole lot of pain.]

So yeah. That's a little peek into what's been going on in the Farnsworth household. Every time I tell H that I'm pregnant, he just laughs at me. When I finally do get pregnant, he's definitely not going to believe me, haha!

Sorry if this post was TMI for you, but I'm also not that sorry. Have any of you had experiences like this, or am I just crazy??

Top: Hello Fab // Skirt: Forever 21 // Shoes: Shoe Dazzle // Clutch: c/o Hello Fab // H&V Necklace: c/o Bip and Bop // Fan Fringe Necklace: c/o Hawthorne Collection // Pave Ball Bracelet: ILY Couture // Bracelet: c/o Bip and Bop // Sunnies: Hello Fab[All photos taken by my girl Lexee.]I know that you guys are probably sick of hearing about Hello Fab by now, but FOR REAL. Hello Fab is absolutely killing it lately and I am obsessed with everything in their shop! Some of my favorites right now are the striped tee, the love me blouse, and the polka dot pencil skirt. Make sure you check out their site!Don't forget to enter the Group giveaway and the White Plum giveaway!!
*Linking up with: Style Elixir xoxo,

Day 5: Avenue Lou GIVEAWAY

Have you ever had one of those days when you come home after what seems like the longest day and all you want is to curl up into a ball and cry? Well, I had one of those the other day. Things have been really stressful over here. I try not to voice these things to other people, because I tend to get really uncomfortable when talking about personal things. But my mind has been going crazy lately, thinking about jobs, and money, and school, and marriage, and blogging, and life in general. And then on top of all that, I had the craziest, longest day at work, and I was just done. I felt so overwhelmed with life and all I wanted to do was get home, take my clothes off, lay on the bed and cry. And that's exactly what I did.

I know I've said this before, but for those of you who don't know my husband, he is literally the sweetest man I have ever known. He puts my needs and wants before his own 100% of the time. And that sweet man of mine, well he just held me while I cried. He spooned me and he smooched me and he let me know, over and over again, how much he loved me. He helped me make dinner, and then he cuddled me while we watched TV. And it was the most wonderful, perfect, peaceful night. I know I've talked a lot about marriage and how hard it can be, but lately I feel like it's just been so... easy. I'm not saying everything is perfect--obviously we have our moments of frustration and contention, but that's all they are. Moments. I feel like we've both learned what makes the other happy and what makes the other laugh, and we both try to focus on those things, because they're the important ones.

The best marriage advice we've ever gotten was this: Always show appreciation for what the other does for you. Voice that appreciation constantly. Make that your focus. If you don't, you will start having expectations, and eventually you will start having demands.

H and I have made this an every day effort and constantly try to voice our appreciation for one another, and it has made all the difference. Because when I'm telling him how grateful I am that he takes my pictures every morning, or always opens the car doors for me, or goes with me everywhere because I'm such a scaredy cat, suddenly I don't even care that he was playing Xbox instead of doing the dishes. ;] When you focus on the things you love about your spouse, it just makes everything so much easier. And I'm a huge fan of that.

[Sorry for my rant, but make sure you scroll down to enter the Avenue Lou giveaway!!]

Top: J. Crew Factory [similar] // Dress: Sugar Love Boutique c/o // Shoes: J. Crew Factory // Sunnies: Forever 21 [old] // Sunnies Case: Avenue Lou c/o // Purse/Camera Bag: Theit
Today I am so excited to bring you a giveaway by Avenue Lou! They have the cutest sunglasses cases, and I'm convinced I need one in every color! Today they are giving one lucky FF reader any case of their choice! Be sure to complete all of the entries to be entered into the giveaway! Avenue Lou has also been so gracious as to give all FF readers 30% off any purchase by using code flirt.

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xoxo,

A Spending Fast

Have you ever had a moment of clarity when you realize that you're just doing it wrong? I had one of those a few days ago. It's like all of a sudden I got caught up in the world and all of these things became so important to me. I was constantly spending money on things that didn't really matter, like my worth depended on whether or not I had the latest trending purse or the cutest shoes. Now don't get me wrong--there is nothing wrong with shopping or having cute and fun things. The problem is when those things start to take you over and become your main priority. I don't know. I guess what I'm saying is that I kind of lost control of myself, and I didn't like what I was turning into. All I was focusing on was stalking the trendiest blogs to see what fancy thing I would buy next. There are so many other things in life that are more important than clothes and shoes, and sometimes you need to take a step back to realize it. I'm not going to stop posting pictures or give up my fashion blog, however I am going on a little spending fast. So you may see me repeating clothes a lot for the next little while.
With that being said, I am also selling a bunch of my clothes that I don't wear as much. [And I sold my Clare Vivier yesterday. I'm pretty sad about it, but it needed to be done. I've never been one to spend hundreds of dollars on one item anyway, so as much as I loved it, I just didn't really feel like myself.] You can see all of my items for sale on Poshmark HERE. [user name vfarnsworth] 
Anyway. Here are a few pictures we took this morning [my last morning with the Clare Vivier, haha] wearing all of my favorite pieces. My favorite shirt, favorite pants, and favorite shoes. 

Anyway, that's all I really feel like writing today. And now I'm off to Summer Movies with the kids.
Tomorrow's Friday!xoxo,

10 Things You Probably Don't Know About Me

So have you heard of the Liebster Award? It's this thing among bloggers, and I have been nominated by two of my dear blogger friends, Ainslee and Katelin. Basically you answer all of these questions about yourself and then nominate other bloggers. To be completely honest, I didn't really feel like answering all of those questions, so instead I thought I would share with you 10 things you probably don't know about me. Personally, I wish more bloggers would do something like this, because I enjoy getting to know other bloggers on a personal level. It's fun to see that they are actually real people! So if you care to get to know me a little bit more, please read on. :]
10 Things You Probably Don't Know About Me:
1. If I hear music, no matter where I am and no matter the type of music, I can't help but dance along somehow. Either by tapping my foot, bobbing my head, or full out breaking it down. And if I know the song, I am always singing or humming along. Seriously, I could be in the middle of a store, surrounded by people, and I will start singing and dancing.
2. You know that rap song Look at Me Now by Chris Brown, Busta Rhymes, and Lil Wayne? I can totally rap Busta Rhymes' part in that. Word for word and at the same speed. [Here is the Karmin version. The original swears a lot!]
3. I don't/won't do the dishes. That is my least favorite chore. I will scrub the toilets no problem, but I will not do the dishes. That's H's job in our house. [Does that make me a bad house wife?]
4. Most of the girls in my Singles Ward wanted to date H's twin brother, but the second I saw H, I thought he was the hottest thing I had ever seen, and I knew I was going to marry him. [It took him about 14 months to figure out that he wanted to marry me.]
5. I have played both the piano and the viola since I was 12 years old.
6. I totally love Miley Cyrus and her music. And while I think the music video for her new song We Can't Stop is disturbing and quite inappropriate, it's kind of my favorite song right now. I blast it on repeat whenever I'm driving anywhere. [H isn't too happy about that. ;]
7. I have a strange obsession with hard boiled eggs. I could eat them for every meal. I don't like scrambled eggs, and only rarely do I eat fried eggs, but hard boiled/deviled eggs? Yes please.
8. It drives me crazy if my nails aren't painted. I have to have them painted. But I also have a bad habit of peeling the nail polish off within a day or two of painting them. So I end up having to paint my nails almost every day.
9. I get pretty bad road rage. Slow drivers and bad drivers make me really angry. I'm kind of a speed demon. H says I'm a bad driver, but I'm not. I'm just fast. I've been pulled over multiple times for speeding, but I've never been in a car crash, so clearly I'm not that bad, right?
10. I shoot jeeps. H drives a Jeep, and every time we would break up, my friends and I would "shoot" every Jeep we saw on the road out of spite. And even though H and I have been together for over a year now, I still can't break the habit. And sometimes H catches it on camera.

[There are seriously so many more, but I usually transfer all of my pictures onto am external hard drive, and I don't have it with me today. But one day I'll post all of my Jeep shooting pictures for you to see. :]
And any of you other bloggers out there-- I would love for you to share 10 things about yourself that your readers don't know! Share the link below and I will check it out! :]Also, I updated my About tab, so head on over and check it out! Happy Tuesday!xoxo

Day Four //

Day Four of the Blog Every Day in May challenge is: Favorite quote and why you love it.

Now this was a little tricky just because I have so many favorite quotes. Seriously. I have so many quotes pinned to my Pinterest board, that it was hard for me to choose just one. However, as I was scrolling through them this morning, one of them really stuck out at me.

How amazing is this quote? It's so simple, but every time I read this, I have a total reality check. I get really deep for a bit, submerged in self reflection. I am definitely not perfect. There have been many times when I think a judgmental thought about someone, complain to my husband about how much I don't like someone, or make fun of others with my girl friends. But really, my words [that they don't hear] aren't harming anyone but myself. They don't really make that other person look bad, they just make me look bad. And my husband is so good at reminding me of this. Whenever I say an unkind word about somebody, he always says, "Baaaabe...." in that tone that annoys me, because I know that he's right. 

When you are unkind to others [to their face or behind their back,] you aren't bringing them down as much as you are bringing yourself down. Growing up, we all had those people that we considered bullies. People who would make fun of our hair, our clothes, how we looked, etc. And every time someone made fun of me, yes it would discourage me for a while, but eventually I wanted to rise up again and show them that I was better than that. And guess who I really remember from my middle school and high school days? The bullies. I always remember them as the people who were rude and who brought me down. And I don't know about you, but I sure don't want to be remembered that way. [And I apologize if anyone, anywhere, remembers me that way.]

I also think that in order to get anywhere in life, you need to be respectful and kind to everyone. Even if there are people that you don't necessarily get along with. [Because when you go in for that really amazing job interview, guess who's going to be the one interviewing you? That kid you bullied in high school. Oops. Karma.] Even starting up this blog, I get uncomfortable sometimes, when I think about people that I've wronged. Because I really want to share this blog and all of my stories and fashion inspiration with everyone, and it would really be a bummer if those people that I've wronged were to not read this blog or to say negative things about it [or me] because of my actions in the past. I think it is so incredibly important for us all to keep this quote in our heads, and try to think of something wonderful about everyone we come in contact with--even if they are a little bit different from us.

So yeah, like I said. A whole lot of self reflection going on over here, but I hope that you all take this quote to heart and try your best to be a little bit kinder. Be remembered as the one who was always sweet and encouraging, not the one who brought others down.

What are some of your favorite quotes? [HAPPY SATURDAY! :]

xoxo,

Day Two // Makeup Must Haves

One of my blogger friends introduced me to the Blog Every Day in May challenge, and I am going to try it! The topics are all pretty interesting, and I haven't done much writing on here in a while, so it might be good for me. [Since I forgot to start yesterday, I'm cheating a little bit and going back to add it into yesterday's post. Check it out HERE.]

Today's topic is: Educate us on something you know a lot about or are good at.

Well, you see-- something that I'm quite fond of [that my husband isn't] is spending money. For real. I have this insane ability to spend money anywhere and on anything. I;m so good at it, that I can't help myself. I just feel this need to shop. [Maybe I should go to therapy?] But it's not just spending money on clothes. It could be shoes, groceries, craft supplies, pens, plants, fabric, accessories, paint, etc. I could seriously go into Staples and spend hundreds of dollars. [Not that I have. But I could.] So now let me just go ahead and educate you all on how to spend money:

First, you go into a store [any store--Forever 21 to Home Depot]  and just start putting things into your cart. It doesn't matter if you need it. Just buy it. That's my philosophy, anyway. Oh, 50 pounds of PVC pipe? You could definitely use that for something. Buy it. Those 15 necklaces that you probably will never wear? Put it in the cart. All organic flax and granola? Yup. It doesn't matter what it is. You just buy it. Really guys, it's not that hard to spend money!

Okay so obviously I'm exaggerating a lot. I'm not that bad. I do like spending money, but I'm pretty good at only buying what we need. [Or what my closet needs. ;] I do wonder though, if anyone else has a similar problem? A craving for buying things? Please tell me I'm not the only one!! 

And on a separate note-- I thought I'd add on my Makeup Must Haves. Quite a few people have asked me about my makeup routine, so I thought I would post the items that I use every day. [I switch back and forth between foundations, but I love them all.] I highly recommend all of these products, and if you'd like a tutorial or a review of any of these products, just comment and let me know!!

1 // 2 // 3 // 4 // 5 // 6 // 7 // 8

What are some of your makeup must haves? I know that most of these products are a little more expensive, but I haven't found any drugstore product that I love enough to repurchase [with the exception of the L'Oreal True Match Foundation.] I would love to hear if you have found a cheaper drugstore product that you love! [And I'm sure H would love it too! ;]

Oufit Post: Camouflage

This past weekend, H and I went camping with some of our friends, so it gave me an excuse to finally go out and buy some camouflage pants. I've been wanting some for a while, but H and I are trying to save money, and they weren't technically a necessity. But H was so sweet, and let me get them for our camping trip anyway! I am totally obsessed with them! I especially love dressing them up with strappy heels.

Our trip was a lot of fun. We took the jeeps up to Blue Ridge, Arizona and it was beautiful! The weather was in the 60s and 70s during the day, which was amazing. The nights, however, were still a little cold [30s?] and most of us didn't get any sleep. It was nice to get home and finally sleep in our nice, warm bed last night! [Make sure to scroll to the bottom to see some pictures from our trip!] 

And I apologize for wearing these amazing glasses in all of my pictures again, but I'm a little tired today, and my eyes aren't too happy about it. ;]

Top: Unknown; Pants: Target; Shoes: Target; Purse: Marshalls; Sunnies: Hello Fab

Here are some of my favorite bloggers who have also rocked this trend:

                           [Hello Fashion Blog]                                                   [Love By Lynn]

                               [Cleverly, Yours]                                                 [The Pink Peonies]

Anyway, here are a few pictures from our camping trip!

^^sexy, huh?^^

^^putting the entire tree stump in the fire pit^^

Hope you all had a great weekend, and hopefully today won't be too long for any of us. ;]

xoxo,